BARBARA M. VERNOSKI, CEC, AELC Restoration Strategist™ Certified Professional Executive Corporate & Personal Empowerment Coach and NLP Practitioner. I am also Currently the “Reigning Mrs New Jersey American Queen Contact for Speaking, Appearances & Coaching [973]670-0876 BarbaraVernoski@nac.net Dear Friends, A 2006 article in Archives of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation evaluated 87 studies of cognitive rehabilitation and said "there is substantial evidence to support cognitive rehabilitation for people with traumatic brain injury." Cognitive treatment has evolved rapidly over roughly the past three decades. Many of its techniques were borrowed from those used to teach children with learning disabilities. Others arose out of vocational rehabilitation programs that helped the disabled return to work. Cognitive difficulties, brain damage and brain abnormalities, is something as a mom of a disabled daughter I know more then I ever wanted to know about. When Rachel (one of my seven children) was born doctors feared the she would never understand her surroundings and basically be a vegetable because of brain abnormalities. The MRI showed no connection between the right and left brain, water on her brain, brain stem damage and a rapidly grown cyst. On top of all of this she had Spina Bifida and was paralyzed from the chest down. Pretty hopeless situation for my daughter. Now at the age of 13 years she is still confined to a wheelchair, but she talks, reads, and has attitude of 13 year. How can this possibly be? Her brain made pathways and roads that were not there. Isn't the brain an amazing thing. There are many people walking around today, that have their heads and minds and emotions in a wheelchair because of their “Stinking Thinking”. These emotions holds us back in every aspect of our lives. NLP is a tool that can change the programs (pathways and roads). Eliminating habits that are not working for us and create new desired ones. NLP gives us choices and tools to react differently to life and those emotions that hold us back. I believe as a child we have this perfect brains full of wonder and curiosity. Unfortunately a bunch of "emotional" brain damage happens as a child. This "emotional" brain damage can affect every aspect of or lives and every decision that we make. After living life for awhile, you start to build road maps, good and bad, they are based on your senses and experiences in life. What would it feel like to live the life you dreamed of? Isn't it about time you take responsibility for your results and change the things that are not working for you? What would it feel like to start to achieving your goals and make healthy decisions about your life. Why not discover what makes you the person who you are? If Rachel can build new roads where there were none, we have the ability to change our roads and the paths of emotions by reprogram the “Stinking Thinking”. This is done through coaching and NLP. Thank you for you time, Barbara M Vernoski I hold a Master Practitioner: Cognitive & Neuro-Linguistics through Christian based therapy using the latest developments in Cognitive & Neuro-Linguistics My training is From Patterns for Renewing Your Mind, Optimal Performance Group and NLP Of Gastonia in Cognitive Linguistics, Meta NLP using the models of semantics through NLP over 125 hours of accreted CEU in this training. I am here to assist you in addressing limiting beliefs and troublesome behaviors that keep you from living the life you want. :       . . mailto:BarbaraVernoski@nac.netshapeimage_1_link_0
Restoring Your Mind
Main Benefits of Using NLP
 
NLP explores how we think and feel about life. NLP is first and foremost about action. By using NLP you can give yourself more conscious choice over what you do and the way you act. Using NLP at work and in your personal life will sharpen your skills and boost your achievements. "The theories and practices”, of NLP will help you discover what makes some people excel in all aspects of their lives, and will enable you to do the same.  
What exactly is NLP
 
 
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) It is the latest discovery in the Cognitive Sciences studies.  It is a study of  the structure of how humans think and experience the world.. NLP is like software for your brain and you get to tell it what to do. Instead of your brain running you, you can run it. NLP technology  is based on an ability to produce your desired results, thus allowing you to become proficient at creating your future and retrain it to think differently
 
Representational Systems & Submodalities
 
 
Neuro: The nervous system (the mind), through which our experience is processed via five senses.  We use our five sense and turn it into info and then codes it into our memory.  So we use all of this to program our minds or create a highway system in our heads.  It i a process of imputing info, processing it and put it in an order.
five senses:
 
    * Visual
    * Auditory
    * Kinesthetic
    * Olfactory
    * Gustatory
 
 
Linguistic: Language and other nonverbal communication systems through which our neural representations are coded,ordered and given meaning. This are not only the words we say, put also the words we say to ourselves.
 
    * Pictures
    * Sounds
    * Feelings
    * Tastes
    * Smells
    * Words (Self Talk)
 
Examples of These are:
Visual:  I see what you are saying.
Auditory: I have heard good things about you,
Kinesthetic: I feel good about the whole project.
Olfactory: Smells like a winner to me.
Gustatory: I can almost taste victory.
 
 
Programming: is the ability to organize these parts (sights, sounds, sensations, smells tastes, and symbols or words) within our mind-body to help  achieve our desired outcomes.  All these parts are what sum up  the programs we run inside our brain.
 
Taking control of one's own mind describes the heart of NLP.
 
 Contact me, So we can come up with a strategy for Restoration!
 
BARBARA M. VERNOSKI, CEC, AELC
Restoration Strategist™
 
[973]670-0876            BarbaraVernoski@nac.net
 
 
 
The Four Main Parts of    NLP
 
      Relationship
 
-How you build a relationship with yourself and others. Whatever you do and whatever you want, being successful will involve relating to and influencing others. So, the first pillar of NLP is to establish Rapport with yourself and then others.
  
 
      Setting your goal
 
-Knowing what you want. What this means is beginning to think about what it is you want rather than getting stuck in a negative problem mode.  Precision is the key to success. The more precise you are knowing what it is that you want and why, the more likely you are to get exactly what you want. And the more likely you are to know when you have achieved it. It is whole way of thinking – consistently ask yourself and others what you/they want. Only ninety-five percent of Americans do not set goals. Who do these ninety-five percent work for? The five percent who do!
   The  principles of Outcome Thinking, is the second NLP pillar.
    
 
      Sensory Acuity
 -It is just that using your senses: looking at, listening to and feeling what is actually happening to you. Only then will you know whether you are on course for your goal and can use this feedback  to adjust what you are doing is necessary.  Did you know that your senses are bombard with 2 billion hits of info per second but your conscious mind can only deal with 5-9 pieces of info at any given moment.  So, What happens to all that other info?  The third principle of NLP is Sensory Awareness.  When you know these you will be more keyed into yourself and others
    
 
    Behavioral Flexibility
-Is the last of the 4 pillars of NLP. This is how you do things differently when what you are currently doing does not work.  Guess what you have many choices of action, there is not just one way to do something. The more choices you have, the more chances of success. If we do what we always did, we get what we always got. Keep changing what you do until you get what you want.
 
 
Three Qualities of Exceptional Communicators
 
As the founders of NLP observed professional communicators in many fields, they discovered that successful communicators possessed three qualities. Thus anyone can become an exquisite communicator by developing these three skills.
 
1. Identify explicit and achievable outcomes. Successful communicators know from the outset the direction and purpose of their communication. THEY ARE END THINKERS.
 
2. Use sensory awareness to notice responses. These skills enable them to live in the now, in sensory-awareness, and provides them with necessary feedback about their progress toward their outcomes.
 
3. Flexibly alter behavior to achieve outcomes. Successful communicators develop the flexibility of behavior to continually change and adjust their communications to achieve their outcomes. An NLP presupposition states, "The person with the most flexibility of behavior controls the system." Successful communicators will change their communication and behavior to attain their outcomes.
 
Some  Questions YOU might want to ask YOURSELF
 
  1.   How are you connecting with others or How are others connecting with you?
  2.  Why do you end up in the same spot or position over and over again?
  3.  Why then do I feel so empty?
  4.  What is it that always makes you a victim?
  5.  Why do you feel so helpless?
  6.  Why do you feel so enslaved to hurts and to depression
  7.  What is it that makes you feel like life is controlling you instead of you controlling life?
  8.  Why can't you experience the joy of God that you see others experience?
  9.  Is there any hope for you to experience the fullness of God's love and joy?
  10.  Do you want to get rid of that, “Stinking Thinking” That is holding you back from being all you
   can be?                    
 
How can this help you to become your very best and help others around you to become their very best
 
Our unconscious mind has a greater influence and can accomplish far more than the conscious. NLP practitioners make the unconscious conscious.  This gives them the power of managing their personal development in a way that enables them to realize their true potential.
 
The awareness of the unconscious portion of your mind is you the key to self-management and influence.
 
You can't control people or events, but you can manage our response to them. Your skill and your ability to manage yourselves directly affect the extent to which we achieve your goals.
 
Each of us happen to possess in our head the most sophisticated computers ever conceived.  When you were born or even when I had my children no one gave me instructions on how to take care of their minds. It sure would have been nice to have something like that. We as parents really can miss-up our kids minds. Thorough  NLP we have something, just the tip of the iceberg.  We are starting  to tap into vastness of the mind.
 
Your brain is like a super-huge, super-friendly computer. It "codes" your thoughts, feelings, perceptions and memories as sensory representations -- images, sounds, sensations, tastes, smells -- as well as words and meanings...
 
None of it is hard-wired. It's completely software driven. And that means you can change any part of it you want.
 
How your individual brain selects representations is highly unique -- no two people do it exactly the same. The end result is, your brain's representations create unique "maps" of the world for you.
 
And you use your maps for everything you do, everything you think, and everything you feel.
 
The thing is, maps can get outdated -- things change, and old maps may omit important new landmarks, even miss entire continents (like the ancient "world maps"), or tell us something is there when it no longer is. Do You want to update your Map give me a call today.
 
 
 
Presuppositions or Things that you might hear me say or someone practicing NLP
 
You will find these sayings useful for creating change in You and the world around you, The emphasis here should be on "useful" not whether each one could be proven to be "true". Practitioners of NLP often include different presuppositions when working with different clients.  Remember you are unique and so is the rode map or coding of your mind and thoughts.
 
 
  1. -Communication is more than what you're saying.
    The body communicates constantly in ways that go far beyond words.
 
  1. -Experience has a structure.
We tend to go with what we know good or bad
 
  1. -People have all the resources they need to succeed and achieve their desired outcomes.
    The resources weren't enough to be in the right place at the right time.
 
  1. -Choice is better than no choice.
     What a Powerful statement.  If you are a victim this one is for you!
 
  1. -People are not their behaviors.
Accept the person; change the behavior
 
  1. -Every behavior serves a positive intention and a context in which it has value.
    The behavior may never lead to that positive intention but that part of you can learn new behaviors that do. As to a context that has value, imagine overeating at an expensive brunch (got your moneys worth didn't you?). Go with me on this one, it really helps.
 
  1. -The mind and body are parts of the same system.
    You have all by now heard about the mind/Body connection.  In the 21 century science is now over and over proving this.  Diseases and sickness of all kinds can result from your thoughts. Not all but most Think about it dis ease your dis with your ease.  Well if you are not connected and living disconnected with ease in your life no wonder you are sick all the time
 
  1. -There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.
    Every response is useful, you may hate the response but the knowledge you gain from it is valuable.
        “There is no such thing as a mistake only opportunity”
 
  1. -People are always making the best choice(s) available to them.
    People do the best they can at the time given the resources that they have.
 
  1. -We are in charge of our minds and therefore our results.
    No one can make you do anything or act anyway.  You are responsible for your actions
 
 
  1. -If one person can do something, anyone can learn to do it.
    Find someone who does something really well and copy them
 
  1. -The map is not the territory.
    We cannot contain every bit of information that comes to us in the world, so we have to create a "map of the territory" and then refer to the map for our information (see representational systems). By changing a person's map, we change their reality.
 
  1. -The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
    If you get slapped, try anything else.
 
  1. -If you aren't getting the response you want, try something different.
      If what you are doing isn't working, do something else
 
  1. -People work perfectly.
    No one is "broken". They are functioning perfectly in what they are doing now (even if it is ruining their life), it's a matter of finding how they function now, so that we can help them change into doing something they consider more desirable.
 
  1. -If you want to understand – act
 
 
  
With NLP, you learn how to grow from every single life experience, thus increasing your ability to create a better quality of life.
    
 
IS NLP FOR YOU? Are you someone who loves learning and want to grow? Do you want to have those ’aha!’ moments? Are you curious about how you can influence others and how they influence you? Do you have a interest in how to take your living experience to a whole new level of success, achievement, adventure and happiness? Are you fed-up with the way some things are for you right now? Are ready to turn your dreams into reality? What does the Bible say about NLP? *****Newsletter*** * "Be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." – Romans 12:2 "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he..." (Proverbs 23:7) "And be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and put on the new nature, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness." (Ephesians 4:23-24, RSV) "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." (KJV) "a spirit of power, love and sound mind" (II Tim. 1:7). " take into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ" (II Corinthians 10:5b KJV). I work with all people from many different faiths and believes, Remember it is your agenda not mine.. Many Christians have questions and concerns about utilizing psychological change techniques believing that such use may reflect a lack of faith in what God has done in Christ. With that said, I wanted to make it very clear about why I believe that this is a great tool that I believe God has given us and that it is not against the bible. See life is our perception of Reality. We are limited by our inability to respond to our senses that are bombard with 2 billion hits of info per second. We can only handle 5-9 pieces of info at any given moment. God is not limited by senses so he is reality. As Christians we make a choice to follow Jesus. I find it very interesting that many Christians think that in everything else in life there is no choice. I find that even well meaning christian counselors, also can make us feel like they we have not choice and they know God’s will for us. Only you and God know what the will is for your life. In a spiritual Counseling setting, they are told to pray more, read the bible more, go to church more and to renew our minds. They continue to have the same problems and become more codependent on counselor or a pastor, because they are never told actually told how to renew their minds. It is thorough Jesus, but how? With modern technology and the exploration of the mind. Everyday we are learning more and more how it works. NLP is a outcome of that. People can be taught how to take control of their lives by learning to control their minds The renewal of your mind and the ability to make appropriate changes for the good are the precise focus of NLP. As your mind is renewed and transformed, you will be better able to test your own experience and discern your role in God's will. In NLP the focus is about moving from the present state to the desired state wining the battle of the mind and thoughts. This change of state occurs when an individual recognizes there is a gap between what they experience now and the promise of salvation through faith and obedience to God and his teachings. NLP puts spirituality at the top of its "neurological levels" – an advanced model of our internal levels which organize our thinking, feeling and acting, and which have profound effects on our health and peace of mind: We are suppose To use our Noggin or our Brian Your brain is one of the greatest gifts God has given you. He wants you to use it. Learn how it works, and work with it the way God designed it to work. Nothing gives you fuller access to the full capabilities of your mind-body and emotions than NLP. NLP encourages you to make the most of all your gifts as God intended. This is NLP's approach – a gentle and powerful way of cleansing your inside from confusion, conflicts and turmoil in accordance with Jesus' instructions to the Pharisees. Jesus' pointed out that people so often, when they seek change, healing, or the improvement of their condition, look to the outside world for solutions. Meanings we derived from experiences when we were younger may no longer serve us well in the present and future. We are more resourceful and experienced now, having grown and learned since our younger days. Yet those old patterns, will stay with us until we replace them with something better. The strategy the enemy has is to create confusion in the mind and to develop wrong thoughts that lead to changes in beliefs, the outward manifestation we see is the change in behavior and responses that is displayed. I’ve came to the conclusion that the bible was written in such a way as to effect change and transformation in those who read it. I have come to believe that there is a structure to the way scripture was written that facilitated a change in mind, emotions and behavior this must be Gods master plan to move from a sinner state to a believer state or born again. "Work out your own salvation, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure." – Philip. 2:12-13 "In other words, we are co-labourers with God in working out our salvation. Though his part is primary, we have an indispensable, distinct part also. We are stewards of our own salvation and sanctification. If you are a Christian then your sufficiency is in Jesus and the tools are used through and with him.
“Only God knows where the attitude and methodology of NLP will lead. We have also noticed that James Dobson has utilized information about "learning styles" on his radio program and monthly newsletter that utilizes the basic NLP model.”    Bobby Bodenhmar
 
To Lean more and gain information from a Godly man and  expert in the field of NLP, also one of my teachers.
 
Go to:
RenewingYourMind.com
 
Barbara inspires people to "show up" at their personal best, using every tool available to them at this moment.
 
Her audiences will leave able to create exactly the relationships they want for themselves, their partnerships, both personal and professional, and generate their intended impact through "Restoration strategy™" and shifting perceptions and behaviors.
 
Her uplifting and motivational messages transform people's lives by enabling them to envision and passionately pursue rewarding new opportunities in life. Her messages resonate with audiences of all kinds from corporations to trade associations to youth groups.
 
If you would like to read more testimonial click here.
 
Contact her for your next event at:
BarbaraVernoski@nac.net
 
“Not knowing when the dawn will come, open every door.”  Emily Dickinson
 
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”   Mark Twain
 
"be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2)
 
“No one can defeat us unless we first defeat ourselves.”
 
Dwight D. Eisenhower
 
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